Control Freak!!!
September 7th, 2009 2:53pm by admin
My new roommate is a control freak! Everything has to go her way or she whines about it. The first day that I moved in she made me re-decorate the living room instead of organizing my room and putting things away. The living room was already decorated because she had been living there before me! When I finally got to organize my room she tried to take over and decorate for me and when I told her I wanted to do it she pouted and went to her room. She is incredibly selfish. She also gets everything she wants and pouts when things don’t go her way. She gets an absurd amount of money from her parents each month so she is always wanting to go shopping and buy things. Even before we started living together she wanted to go shopping for decorations for the apartment and wanted me to buy all this stuff. She doesn’t understand that not all people have the kind of money she does!
I have a class with her and she expects me to be there exactly when she is. She texts me asking where I am if she is there and I am not. If I am even 1 minute late I get this look from her like I am going straight to hell. Not only does she text me about where I am when I’m coming to class, she texts me constantly asking what I am doing, where I am and when I will be coming home. I already have 1 mom and she doesn’t even do that! I am 22 years old, you think I can take care of myself by now! She is actually 2 years younger than me and she acts like my mom, I cant stand it.
She doesn’t have a CLUE about other people or their feelings, everything is about HER. She is a selfish, inconsiderate, sorority princess who thinks the world revolves around her and I’m sick of it! I’ve only been living with her for a month and I’m
I can completely relate with you, as I’ve recently moved in with my grandmother who is the same way. What’s worse is that she is a neat freak. If there is a sock on the floor, the room is filthy.
You’ve got to understand a few things about this girl you’ve moved in with:
1. She is OCD. Don’t you dare tell her that because it will only stir up an argument.
2. She lacks a lot of self-confidence and is in fear of being vulnerable. Especially with the money issue. Her parents have always paved her way and she fears what will happen in the “real world”.
3. She is likely never going to change. Not without intervention and counseling. I suggest you get yourself a new place to live.
There’s a lot of information online about people who share this problem. Unfortunately, there is nothing you can do but remain calm as not to provoke her.
I’m 19 and going through a similar process. I share a dorm with three other girls and each has her own bedroom. One of these girls is my friend from last year, so I decided to room with her. Big mistake.
Anything done differently than how she does it, she thinks I’m weird or just plain wrong. I locked myself out of my dorm earlier this semester. I asked her this morning if she had locked herself out of her room when I saw her fidgeting with her door. The response I got is “no, i can’t lock myself out of my room like you”. I’m sorry but is she saying I’m stupid?! I found out later that she had locked herself out of her dorm three times last year.
She never treats our other roommates like this. I asked her yesterday if she knew where our roommates were, wondering if they might have mentioned anything. She said, “I don’t know. I’m not their mother.” and yet she’s always interagating me about where I’m going and why.
I think I have finally cracked though. I locked myself in my room in order to avoid her and have broke out crying. I only walked out once to use the restroom, acting like I was sleeping. She was sitting on the couch starring at me like a buzzard.
omg, I’m so sorry about your roommate issues,both of you guys, I tend to be a sensitive person and the fact that my roommate is always giving me all these demands on sticky notes, (milk in fridge, close door,stop snoring) wth I can’t control that part!
And not talking to me about them, only to bitch and explode when it really bothers her, so I been avoiding my dorm the whole time. and she kind of acts like its solely her room…because I often just go home for the weekends because I can’t stand her. Even when we argued about her demands, she still kept screaming at me until I broke down…
She leaves me feeling weak, and I hate that the most, I don’t want to be the bad roommate because I try to keep up to her demands, and she never follows mines anyways…
Gosh I just really want to move out and or have to guts to ignore her…