Please Help Me! I Hate My Roommate’s Boyfriend
August 25th, 2010 12:57am by anonymous
My roommate has been my best friend going on three years. We moved in together for the first time about 3 months ago, and the agreement was that her and I were to move into a two bedroom/two bathroom apartment. She has a boyfriend (she’s 21 and he is 38). On the first day of the two of us living together, he asked me "Hey would you mind if I slept over? This is your apartment too and I wanted to get your approval." I told him "Yeah that’s no problem." And that was the last time he asked. Ever since then, he has spent the night here every night (minus 7 days) for 3 months, and there is no sign of him stopping. He sleeps here every night, showers here every night, cooks and eats here (with his own food), watches tv, washes and dries his clothes, etc…and he pays nothing. I also feel uncomfortable around him because he makes perverted comments, and he’s very close to my parent’s ages. I love wearing short shorts and nightshirts in my living room while I watch tv, and I would love to walk from my bathroom to my bedroom in my robe, but it’s awkward because he’s always around. I feel like this isn’t my apartment anymore. I feel like I’m renting a room from a couple…but I’m not. I’m paying half of everything with my roommate. I’m only 20 years old and I don’t need this in my life. I want to tell my roommate, but I know she will take it offensively. She feels bad for him because he lives with his mom in a twin sized bed with bad a/c. I don’t want to ruin our friendship over this, but I can’t take this anymore. Any advice?
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This is a valid argument. Print and share with your roommate. He makes you uncomfortable, simple.
I did share with her, and she was okay at first. I basically told her everything and asked her to come to a mutual decision with me. The next day she said she was going to move out because I was telling her how to live her life, and now she hates me. I guess this is why no one should ever move in with their best friend lol
make him pay rent.
I have the exact same problem!!! Except my roommates boyfriend works the night shift and comes over like every morning. Normally he’s good about calling her to let him in. Idk why she hasn’t just given him a key. Anyway this morning his phone was dead so he was knocking on our door at 7am 10 minutes before my alarm. I got up opened the door and coldly said “please stop coming over before my f***ing alarm!” and walked back in my room kinda slamming the door. He tells my roommate I “cursed him out” and we got in a big fight this morning because she’s trying to justify him coming over. I’m sick of him being here in general and him waking me up before my alarm (my room is right next to the front door hers is on the other side) is just the final straw. I’m sooooooo sick of him! I like my roommate but I’m pretty pissed at her for blowing off my anger at this and for accusing me of “cursing him out” I kinda went off on her this morning and really don’t like doing that. He kinda wrecked my whole day and I really don’t think he realizes it.
i hate bad built hoes.
About two years ago, I started living with a roommate. She has a two bedroom condo, and I rented the basement space. At first I thought we would be really compatible. She was very strict about setting a rule that I could not have overnight visitors-fine with me, I like my privacy. And then, a month later, the guy she’s dating moves in with us, lock stock and barrel. He has personality problems and does not like to socialize, so he is there in the condo 24-7. He supposedly “works from home” but i never hear him making business calls. Needless to say, he doesn’t contribute to the rent or any other expenses that I can see. He is very touchy and passive-aggressive; it is easy to p*** him off, and when he gets annoyed, instead of talking it over like an adult, he sulks and takes it out on my roommate. And she, being the doormat that she is doesn’t confront him about his childish behavior; instead, she takes it out on me. It is NEVER his fault in her opinion, he can do no wrong. Here’s the kicker: he supposedly own two houses, one that he rents out and the other in a nice section of town. So why does he never stay there? My roommate has never even seen the house, and they’ve been together for two years. Isn’t that a little strange? Especially since our workplace is less than a mile from his house. My roommate used to talk about how convenient that would be, but somehow, they never ended up there. If my roommate wants to be a doormat, that’s her business. But when it affects me, who’s paying to live there, I think i have a right to object.