We share a double room and also have to share a double bed. The room is not very spacious and last week she invited a friend to stay with us for a while. I don’t mind her friend, I actually see it as a blessing, because her attention is divided by both of us now. But she invited her friend without alerting a landlord!; and when she told me that somebody is moving in  and I just said “ok”, she said that “I’m not asking, I’m telling!” – I saw it so fucking hilarious, I didn’t say that I’m against it but the fucking bitch still attacked me!! The landlord is getting pissed with her as well.  Both of us owe some money to our landlord, but she doesn’t pick up the phone when he’s calling, so he calls me up then, asking where is she and why is her phone dead?.. I speak to my landlord directly and am honest with him all the time and he respects that.

This morning we had an argument. She attacked me again saying things like she’s fed up with me sitting at home all the time, not going out and never having money on me AND started shouting very rude that I have to “move the fuck out” like she would be an owner of the property (which is actually what my landlord said about her and he is tired of her acting like that). At the moment I’m developing my business and I spend a lot of time on my computer, also am looking for a part time job and occasionally go downtown for some appointments, but I see no reason for me having to explain all of my personal affairs(she is not my wife after all!). I want to move out, but I can’t do it at the moment, but if push comes to shove I might just pack up and stay at my friends place for a while.

 Opinions please..

Sincerely,
Alexa (I don’t care if you see this)

She makes so much noise in the mornings in surprised she does not wake anyone else up! She gets up around 6:10 to 6:15. Now I type ‘around’ because she hits snooze about 6 or 7 damn times before she gets her ass up. Once she is up, she makes enough noise to wake the dead. Clanging dishes around, slamming doors, tossing things around, God forbid anyone wanting to sleep. I can’t fall back to sleep until she leaves at 7am and by then I have a hour and a half before I have to wake up.

Also, I swear she has no concept of social norms either and no respect for others around her. She constantly interrupts other people’s sentences to talk about herself and does not know how to be polite at all!

In addition to that, she is constantly complaining about how she does not get enough sleep and that she is always tired and consequently she says she will not feel well enough to go to class in the mornings because of it…honestly…it is pathetic. She also complains about not having enough time for homework. Well maybe if she did not spend all her time on facebook and go out partying at the weekends she would have a little more time.

She also leaves dirty dishes around and leaves food in the fridge for days on end until it has gone moldy. It is only after I tell her about it that she throws the food away and that is about 3 days after I initially informed her!! God I hate it, especially at night when I want to go to bed. It will be like 1am and she will still be awake, doing nothing but complaining about being tired and her homework of course, and she will not let me turn off the main light, which practically blinds me considering I am in the top bunk. I mean god forbid that she turn her desk light on and use that. Noooo that be too much fucking work!

She also, always, closes the door when I leave; even when I specifically leave it open to get back into the room. Now we live in a residence hall so the door only opens to the hallway and more often than not, I am only going next door for a minute or less. I come back and the doors closed and then I have to knock on the door to be let in, and then she complains that she did not lock the door so I should be able to get in…ugh…If she would just leave the damn door alone it wouldn’t happen, but no there’s a ‘draft’ from the door being open to the hallway…on the 6th floor…in the middle…yeah…

I have no Idea what to do about it! It is driving me crazy and I just do not know what to do. I cannot talk to her about it because she just do not fucking listen and I am not the type to complain to someone’s face like she does. I mean she thinks I am a great roommate, I just wish I could bloody well say the feeling was fucking mutual

Rather than go through the entire 10-month ordeal from start to finish, let me just summarize her crimes- I’m sure I’ll have to add more posts as I remember everything she did!

1. Had a number of dirty dogs, none of which were housebroken, which she allowed to urinate and defecate all over the house, bark constantly, chew on everything, eat cat food, eat out of the cat box, and just generally be disgusting and destructive. They were so filthy that when I moved out I had to have all my furniture professionally cleaned just to get the smell out, and when we moved my furniture out there were piles of dried dog poo under everything. When my friends helped me move out, I had to open all the windows and air the house out because they walked inside and physically GAGGED at the stench of animal urine.

2. Had several cats which she never fed, never gave water to, and never cleaned their catbox. The entire house reeked from her catboxes and the cats screamed constantly for food and water, which I usually had to give them (I paid hundreds of dollars to feed her cats while I was there because she would not bother to get them food and they just screamed and harrassed me all the time because they were hungry. If she actually did get them food or put out the food I bought, she left it where the dogs could eat it so the bowl was still always empty and they still always screamed). She also did nothing about their claws and they ruined my very expensive microsuede furniture and parts of the carpet, which means the security deposit went down the drain.

3. Insisted all the utilities go in her name to improve her credit, and then never bothered to pay any of them on time, so she ended up coming to me every month saying she had to have “x” amount of money RIGHT NOW because the bills were already late. I also ended up paying several months worth of water bills myself and she never gave me any of the money back.

4. She broke a brand-new vacuum and THREE carpet steamers in the space of 10 months. How, I don’t know. I paid for the vacuum and one carpet steamer myself (never got the 50% she promised to pay out of her) to try and keep the house clean, and the few times she actually used them (for her own bedroom mainly, she never bothered to clean up the rest of the house) she managed to break them. The second steamer belonged to my friend and I had to have it repaired, the third steamer she borrowed herself and still destroyed. Towards the end I borrowed a vacuum from my mom and kept it locked in my room, and ran it whenever I wanted to have people over (which was pretty rare since the house was so foul by the end).

5. She. NEVER. Cleaned. For months, I would vacuum almost every day, sweep every day, take the trash out, tidy the kitchen, tidy the bathroom, and scrub the whole house down on weekends. She did NOTHING. She came home every day, threw her crap all over the house, left dishes everywhere, trash everywhere, left things all over the bathroom floor and counters, and no matter how much I cleaned she had it trashed by the next day. She would leave dirty dishes in the sink next to an empty dishwasher rather than actually put them in herself. I had to load and unload the dishwasher, clean the stove every time she dumped stuff all over it, mop up the floor when she spilled stuff everywhere, clean out the fridge of her moldy leftovers, take the trash out, clean the bathroom… She. Did. NOTHING. I have never met a filthier person in my entire life. And her excuse? She worked a lot. Yet she managed to be home with whatever idiot she was calling a boyfriend that day 6 nights a week sitting on her fat backside on MY couch watching TV and not doing squat.

6. Which brings me to: she took over the entire house as though I weren’t paying half the rent. Every night, she and her boyfriend parked themselves in front of the TV, cooked in the kitchen, and basically took up the entire downstairs all night long. Which meant I was pretty much confined to my bedroom. And she took long obnoxious showers/baths constantly, and threw a fit if *heaven forbid* I was in the bathroom when SHE needed a shower.

7. She was RUDE. I had friends over for a nice dinner one night, when I actually got off early and claimed the downstairs. We were sitting at the table in the middle of eating when she got home, walked into the kitchen, and proceeded to vent about work for a good 20 minutes, completely ignoring my friends and the fact that we were TRYING to eat dinner. What the ??? Another time, I had people over for a party, she let her dogs run around stealing food off the tables, and when I told her to lock them up, she responded with, if I didn’t stop being a b**** she “wasn’t going to let me have people over anymore”. I’m sorry, last time I checked, it was my friggin’ house too. And I’m sorry that not everyone is dirty enough to appreciate dog spit in their food. Every single person who ever walked into that house commented on how horrendously rude she was ALL THE TIME.

8. And the DRAMA. She broke up with her boyfriend of the week about every other day, and I had to either listen to them scream at each other, or listen to her rant about what happened if it occurred outside the house and I hadn’t been subjected to it already. She even stormed in one night screaming at ME for not having my phone on so that she could have ME get stuff out of HER room so that HER ex could come by for it in the middle of MY dinner and movie. Because somehow I was responsible for dealing with her drama? Good grief. If it wasn’t a guy, it was her mother, or her sister, or her friends, or someone at work, and I had to hear about every last thing that was wrong in her horrible little “woe is me” life. (Because none of it was HER fault, obviously!)

9. She and her friends ate and drank the majority of my groceries every week without paying me for anything nor replacing anything, to the point where I started keeping pretty much all my food upstairs in my closet where she couldn’t access it. Before I left she even made off with an unopened bottle of my booze! And I’m not talking one soda here and there, I’m talking 2-3 cases of a soda and sport drinks per week disappearing EVERY week! Plus my food!

10. When I finally told her I was leaving, she went even more psycho than she already had been. She all but tried to chase me out of the house immediately instead of me leaving in a month or two like I’d planned to (because she wanted to give my room to the dogs), she turned off our cable for no reason (it was already paid), and she tried to demand that I give back my key prior to the lease being up, and yet still pay the rent even though I wouldn’t even have a key (in her own words, because I “might come back and mess the house up”.) She even tried to threaten me with restraining orders to keep me out of the house (I’m pretty sure somewhere a lawyer laughed his a** off at that!). She also threatened to basically wreck the house and try to pin it on me so that I’d have to pay for the damages.

In the end, I lost HUNDREDS of dollars between the costs of trying to keep the house clean, feeding her animals so they wouldn’t starve, cleaning everything after I moved out, paying her part of the bills, etc. Meanwhile, she sat there running her mouth about what a terrible roommate * I * was. Now, I’m sure I’m not perfect, but here’s a rundown of what I DID do as her roommate:

1. Took care of her animals, to include feeding, watering, litterboxes, picking up feces off the carpet, letting dogs outside, even watching them all for weeks while she was out of town, with NO compensation, not even for the food I purchased.

2. Cleaned the entire house, up until the last month or two when I got fed up and just kept my own room clean and picked up after myself, and let her trash the rest and then live in it.

3. Allowed her to borrow my TV for her bedroom the entire time I was there.

4. Gave all the basic courtesies of offering her dinner when I was cooking, warning her before I had people over, telling her if I’d be away for the night, etc., and plenty of “above and beyond” courtesies like folding her laundry when I needed the dryer (since her laundry generally stayed there until she wore it again otherwise), and invited her to any parties or events I had at the house, or even out of the house. I even vacuumed/steam-cleaned HER room if I was doing the rest of the house- in spite of the fact that she pretty much only cleaned out her own room and left the rest of the house in shambles.

Again, I could go on and on (and I’m sure I’ll post more later) but of all the roommates I’ve had, this one takes the cake. Thankfully the horror has ended and I’m now living quite happily alone.

this guy also hits his snooze button constantly. last saturday he hit it from 7AM to 8:30AM..mother fucking SERIOUSLY 7AM-8:30AM ON SATURDAY. and didnt actually get up until about 9:30am. So …maybe he is having trouble breathing at night because of mucous..or some respiratory problem causing him to get less sleep????

god help me alcohol isnt doing it